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to deal with and it may last a long time. Self blame and doubt add to the pain of grief. This can make it difficult to share with others. Talking about your feelings or keeping a journal often helps you gain perspective and insight. There are no right or wrong feelings in grief, there are just your feelings.
Take care of yourself
Have compassion and take care of yourself. Eat properly, get enough rest and exercise. Grief causes tremendous stress on your body. It attacks even the strongest immune system. You may catch more colds, experience headaches or muscle aches. Taking care of yourself is more important now than ever before. You might try some deep breathing exercises or relaxation techniques. You can find relaxation tapes at a library or a book store.
Take control
It is important at this time to do things that can give you back some sense of control. You will be faced with making many decisions regarding your future, both personal and financial. Take time
making major decisions. Begin slowly. Handle projects in small increments of time. This will help build your confidence and prove that you are making progress.
Put the clothes away when you are ready. Do not let others push you to make decisions you are uncomfortable making.
As you are getting your finances in order, get your other affairs in order to. Change insurance beneficiaries. Check your health and other insurance policies. Discuss your own funeral arrangements with your family and funeral director. Taking care of life’s “paperwork” can help restore a sense of control and give you peace of mind.
Be patient with yourself
Grieving takes time. It takes far longer than anyone expects, particularly you. You really don’t ever get “over it” but you can get “through it”. This loss is a part of your life. Be assured, you will not always feel as you do right now. Listen to yourself and go forward at your own pace. Don’t be surprised when grief shows up again. Just when you think you might be doing
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