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What you can do
Acknowledge and express your feelings. Grief can be confusing. Sadness, anger, fear and guilt are some of the most common emotions. You may feel nothing at all or feel them all at the same time. Do not be afraid of the intensity of your emotions. Mood swings are normal.
Guilt can be one of the hardest emotions to deal with and it may last a long time. Self blame and doubt add to the pain of grief. This can make it difficult to share with others. Talking about your feelings or keeping a journal often helps you gain perspective and insight. There are no right or wrong feelings in grief, there are just your feelings.
Take care of yourself
Have compassion and take care of yourself. Eat properly, get enough rest and exercise. Grief causes tremendous stress on your body. It attacks even the strongest immune system. You may catch more colds, experience headaches or muscle aches. Taking care of yourself is more important now than ever before. You might try some deep breathing
exercises or relaxation techniques. You can find relaxation tapes at a library or a book store.
Take control
It is important at this time to do things that can give you back some sense of control. You will be faced with making many decisions regarding your future, both personal and financial. Take time making major decisions. Begin slowly. Handle projects in small increments of time. This will help build your confidence and prove that you are making progress.
Put the clothes away when you are ready. Do not let others push you to make decisions you are uncomfortable making.
As you are getting your finances in order, get your other affairs in order to. Change insurance beneficiaries. Check your health and other insurance policies. Discuss your own funeral arrangements with your family and funeral director. Taking care of life’s “paperwork” can help restore a sense of control and give you peace of mind.
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