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The reason for this is that the Polly Perfects can’t take responsibility for their Stinky Thinking. Their self-worth is dependent on external factors, like being the smartest or prettiest. They can only feel good about themselves if others admire and praise them. As long as these things are happening, the Polly Perfects of the world are happy and pleasant to be around. But when things don’t go their way, they become angry or they pout and are not pleasant to
be around
When my cousin said of Polly, “I hope she does learn that her thinking is unrealistic and is making her unhappy but I’m not willing to bet any bananas on it,” he was being realistic. Polly is going to have a difficult time accepting that sometimes you win and sometimes you don’t. Liking yourself comes from telling yourself healthy rational messages, (Good Thinking), like “I am a good person and help others even if sometimes they don’t appreciate it” rather than “I am the most helpful person around here and somebody should notice that and praise me.”
Changing how you think is very difficult and may take a lot of practice. You should always do your best at any task but not allow your liking of yourself to depend on success at that task. When you catch yourself telling yourself things like “I must win or I will just die” stop and change it to, “I hope I can win and I’ll do my best but if I don’t win, I will try again next time.” Please remember, “Good Thinking” is how you can avoid becoming a Polly Perfect.
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