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Sefer Chafetz Chayim םייח ץפח רפס
Hilchot Esurei Lashon Hara ערה ןושל ירוסיא תוכלה
Kelal Yud - Halachah 2 ד הכלה - י ללכ

disclosing his sin since he refused to accept the reprimand). All this is if ףוסב מ"שה םש םייסמ ירהד ,וניא הז םג לבא
the sinner is an ordinary Jew and especially if the person who committed
the sin is a Torah observant Jew, then most certainly the obligation :ל"זו ארמ יפאד ארמימ יאה לע ושוריפב ןינעה
is to first approach him and talk to him \ rebuke him privately to try to תונהל ןיוכתמ וניאש םדאה לע תחכומ תאזה הדמהו
understand his rationale for doing what he did and to try to determine what
leniencies he though applied to his actions that brought him to do what הצע עמשיש אוה ןיוכתמ אלא וריבחב םגפ תניתנב
he did. Because if that is not so, one could never conform to the second הנוי 'ר ריתמ םש ירהו ,'וכו ותוא תונגמ תוירבהש
rule of this Kelal. Perhaps this (so‑called) sinner will demonstrate that
his actions were really correct and were within the law, as Chazal teach in םיברל קזחומ אוהש שיאב אתלת יפאב אלש וליפא
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Mishnayot Avot (2 perek, 4 mishnah) “Do not judge your fellow Jew ול רמוא יאדוב היהש םושמ ןרקשו ףנוח ונניאש
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and come to a conclusion until you first place yourself in his position.”
(Please see the following Hagahah). םיברב וא ארמ יפאב םש םייסמש ומכ ,וינפב כ"ג
אוה ןיוכתמש אפוג ארבס יאה םושמ ול ודיגיש
(K10/2/4)-(8) .. language that is gentle and non-confrontational:
This is a quotation from the Rambam that appears in Hilchot De’Aut , the תונגל ידכו 'וכו ותוא תונגמ תוירבהש הצע עמשיש
6 perek, the 7 halacha.
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וליפא הכייש וז ארבסד אמלא ,םיערה םישעמה
חיכוהד אכיה וננינעב ש"כו ,אתלת יפאב אלש
Hagahah ןיא יאדוד ,וירבדל עמש אלו וינפב הלחתמ ותוא

In my humble opinion of this subject, this seems to be the implication .ר"השל רופיסמ תונהל ותנווכש ודשחל
of the Gemara Yevamot (121a) regarding the incident between Rav
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and Rav Shelah, that Rav Shelah judged a case that was brought before אלש אכיהד :ךכ איה 'אה םעטב הנוי 'ר תנווכו
him regarding a woman and rendered a decision that the woman could רתוי ארבתסמ היהי ,וינפב הלחתמ ותוא חיכוה
re‑marry (based on the details of that case brought before him), contrary
to the law. Because of that decision Rav wanted to excommunicate Rav ,ר"השל רופיסמ תונהל ידכ ותנווכש םיעמושהל
Shehlah and Shemuel stopped him from acting until such time that Rav כ"כ יוצמ וניא הזד ,וינזאל םירבדה ועיגיש אלו
would go to Rav Shehlah and ask him why he decided the case as he
did. And so it was, and Rav Shehlah admitted that he made a mistake. ותוא חיכוה םא לבא .איסהרפב אלש רפסמשכ
Regarding that admission, Shemuel said the following about Rav (Mishle וזה תלעותל קר ותנווכש ךחרכ לע הלחתמ וינפב
12:21) “No iniquity will happen to the righteous” (meaning, Hashem will
not allow any iniquity to befall Rav by mistakenly excommunicating .טושפ הז לכו ר"השל רופיסמ תונהל אלו
Rav Shehlah). (Please reference Rashi’s commentary there, the citation
beginning with the word “No”). Implicitly, had Rav excommunicated Rav ןיאש הז ןפואב ע"צו .'וכו פ"כעש ןויכ )זט(
ריתהל ןיאד רשפא ,ןוממ ןינעב ןודינהל תלעות

49 Re the quote from Mishnayot Avot: “until you first place yourself in his
position”…Because that is the essence of compassion.” Rabbi David Ozeirey
(Yeshiva Ateret Torah, Brooklyn, NY) quoting the Or HaChayim HaKadosh at
the dedication ceremony of the Adjmi Beit Midrash in Bentonville, Arkansas, 59 When someone makes a remark about ‘this person’ in a way that he will
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