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Guilt can be one of the hardest emotions to to deal with and and it it may last a a a a a a a a a a a long time Self blame and and doubt add to to to the pain of grief This can make it it difficult to to share with others Talking about your feelings or keeping a a a a a a a journal often helps you you gain perspective and insight There are are no right or wrong feelings feelings in in in in grief there are are just your feelings feelings Take care of yourself
Have compassion and take care of yourself
Eat properly get enough rest and exercise Grief causes tremendous stress on on your body It attacks even the strongest immune system You may catch more colds experience headaches or or muscle aches aches Taking care of yourself
is more important now than ever before You You might try some deep breathing exercises or or relaxation relaxation techniques You You can find relaxation relaxation tapes at at at a a a a a a a a a a library or or or a a a a a a a a a a book store Take control
It is is important at at this time to do things that can give you back some sense of control
You will be faced with making many decisions regarding your future both personal and financial Take time making major decisions Begin slowly Handle projects in in in in small increments of time This will help build your confidence and prove that you you are making progress Put the the the clothes away when you you are ready Do not let others push you you you to make decisions you you are uncomfortable making As you you you are getting your your finances in in in in order order get get your your other affairs in in in in in order order to Change insurance insurance beneficiaries Check your your health and other insurance insurance policies Discuss your your your own funeral funeral arrangements with your your family and funeral funeral director Taking care of of life’s “paperwork” can help restore a a a a a a a sense of of of control
and give you peace of mind Be patient with yourself
Grieving takes takes time It takes takes far longer than anyone expects particularly you you You really don’t ever get get “over it” it” but you you can get get “through it” it” This loss is is a a a a a a a part of your your life Be assured you you you you will not always feel as as you you you you you do right now Listen to yourself
and go forward at your your own pace Don’t be be surprised when when grief shows up again Just when when you you you you think you you you you might be be be doing better you you you you you may find yourself
crying in in in in in the grocery store or or when you you you hear a a a a a a specific song on on the radio Anger and guilt can strike anywhere at any any time Forgive yourself
for living when your your loved one did not Find yourself
Grief has changed your life completely You You cannot go back to being who you you were You You You really don’t ever get get “over it” it” but you you can can get get “through it” it” You You can can learn to live with who you you are now Most bereaved people experience a a a a a a a change of perspective and discover that their priorities change Now is is a a a a a a a a a time to to take a a a a a a a a a a a personal inventory and and reassess your beliefs and and values You may find great comfort in in in your faith community as you you look for for meaning You will discover new strengths and talents Trust your heart Create new routines and rituals
Develop new new routines and patterns as you you search for the the new new you you Acknowledge the the empty chair and and move it it Rearrange your furniture and and create a a a a a a a a a a a a space just for you you Exercise at at a a a a a a a a a a a a a a specific time each day Journal and make an an entry daily Daily patterns will help you you develop your new new identity and find a a a a new normality Find ways to to remember the life of your loved one daily You do not have to to to say goodbye It is important to to acknowledge the change in in your relationship You do not stop loving someone just because they have died You can still maintain a a a a a a a a a a a a a relationship in in in your heart They are are are a a a a a a a a a a a a a part of who who you you you are are are and who who you you you are are are becoming Page 22 - - VANDER PLAAT-CAGGIANO FUNERAL HOME VANDER PLAAT-CAGGIANO FUNERAL HOME - - Page