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If you eliminate this ritual, you often set yourself up to repress your feelings and you cheat everyone who cares for a chance to pay tribute to someone who was, and always will be, loved.
Allow a Search for Meaning
You may find yourself asking, “Why did he die?” “Why this way?” or “Why now?” This search for meaning is another normal part of the healing process. Some questions have answers. Some do not. Actually, the healing occurs in the opportunity to pose these questions, not necessarily in answering the. Find a supportive friend who will listen responsively as you search for meaning.
Treasure Your Memories
Memories are one of the best legacies that exist after someone loved dies. Treasure them. Share them with your family and friends. Recognize that your memories may make you laugh or cry. In either case, they are a lasting part of the relationship that you had with a very special person.
Move Toward Your Grief and Heal
The capacity to love requires the necessity to grieve when someone you love dies. You can’t heal unless you openly express your grief. Denying your grief will only make it become more confusing and overwhelming. Embrace your grief and heal.
Reconciling your grief will not happen quickly. Remember, grief is a process, not an event. Be patient and tolerant with yourself. Never forget that the death of someone loved changes your life forever. It’s not that you won’t be happy again, it’s simply that you will be exactly the same as you were before the death.
Accepting a Loss
For each of us – rich or poor, young or old – there are times in our lives when we must face and deal with personal losses and the pain and sorrow they cause. Examples that come easily to mind are the death of a parent, spouse, child or other close family member or friend. Many other events and
transitions also bring with them sadness and a need to grieve; such as:
• Being told you have a serious, possibly terminal illness
• Having to give up interests and activities that have been a major part of your life
• Seeing serious decline in mental or physical health of someone you love
• Retiring from a work career or voluntary
activity that has helped shape who you
are and what you stand for
• Losing a significant part of your
independence and mobility; even giving up driving can be a significant loss for many people
• Moving out of your home
• Losses such as these are simply part of
living. Like their counterparts among the joyful occasions in our lifetime – the birth of a child or grandchild, a celebration of marriage, an enduring friendship – they are part of what it means to share in the human experience. And the emotions they create in us are part of living, as well.
Talking to Children and Teens
When a loved one dies, it can be difficult to know how to help children cope with the loss, particularly as you work through your own grief. By being open and honest, encouraging communication and sharing your own feelings, you and your children cope with painful times and begin your healing journey together.
Children and Grief
A child’s ability to understand death varies according to his or her age.
Infants and toddlers feel a loss through the absence of a loved one, interruption in their regular routine and through the grief and stress they sense in their parents or other family members. Spend extra tie holding and cuddling the child and try to keep them
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