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Story: Minister's Daughter:
In a custody case where I was the evaluator, the twelve year old daughter of a police officer was the subject of a bitter custody feud. Not only did the mother and father want full custody of the child, the mother wanted to re-locate to another state to study to become a minister.
During my evaluation it was alleged that the daughter was afraid of her father, did not want to visit with him, should only see him in the presence of a supervisor, and had exposed his private parts to her.
As a first point of confusion when trying to understand the mechanics of parental rejection, each and every one of these allegations has been a factor in some of the thousands of cases I have evaluated, and some have been true.
However, they are also the very allegations that are falsely proclaimed in order to cast a negative light on a parent as part of a malicious litigation strategy or a strategy to toxify a relationship between a parent and a child.
In this case, the judge found that the allegations were baseless and were the product of the mother's malicious attempts to disenfranchise her daughter from her father, so that she could go off and become a minister. The ruling was she could stay here, change her behavior and be an equal parent with the father or she could re-locate and tend to her studies and travel back here to visit with her daughter. She could not move with her daughter. Exiting the court room the mother turned over her shoulder and said to the judge, "You have just made a big mistake. In two weeks, if my daughter hasn't killed herself there will be no choice other than to send her to me."
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