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followed her mother into the kitchen and the two fixed a meal and ate. Gradually, conversation started to happen.
The daughter asked if her and her mother could rent a movie. After the three hours were up they asked if they could stay a bit longer and make pizza.
At midnight they were both hysterically crying and embracing.
Two weeks later with the blessing of the father, the daughter moved to live with her mother to catch up on lost time.
I learned the following from this case and I have learned other things from the hundreds of cases I have looked at or intervened in following it:
—Cases of parental rejection rarely resolve with this kind of happy ending but we are at a stage of having to experiment with solutions and you do not know if a creative solution will work unless you try. Sometimes what we assume should work makes things worse. Be careful about encouraging your child to reject someone. Once they learn to cut someone out of their lives, you could very well be next.
—A child who rejects a parent during a divorce case who must then spend lots of time with them and very little time under the influence of a toxic parent can learn to adjust. Traditional "talking therapy" for long periods of "treatment" might not work as well as normalized contact between a parent and a child where parents act like parents and children act like children. When parents and children are put in normal environments the roles that naturally exist operate on their behavior.
—None of these things apply to every case and might not apply to any other case aside from this one. (however, similar things have
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