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The Importance of Memorialization
It is important that one day if someone walks by a grave they will be able to read the tombstone and acknowledge a life that has been lived. Even if it is 100 years after death and a visitor did not know that person, they would at least by their name know that they were once here. Perhaps the date of birth and date of death would be on the stone as well, and one could calculate the age and maybe even how many generations of their family they were blessed to have.
This is one reason why the respect of properly marking a Jewish grave is so important. A grave for a Jewish person shall only hold one person at a time, (never one above each other ) keeping sacred that person’s resting place and should be “permanently” marked as soon as possible. A temporary grave marker should be left there the day of the service and an unveiling should be planned to mark the grave with a granite or perhaps a bronze marker.
The unveiling is a ceremony usually in America that is done NEAR but BEFORE the year anniversary of the date of passing and is done directly at the gravesite to celebrate one’s life. It is an opportunity for family members to reflect and share stories once again and “if you leave an unveiling not feeling better than when you arrived you have defeated the purpose”.
It is the custom of all Jews to properly mark the grave of a loved one, however, the type of headstone to be used is not specified. Each cemetery has a prescribed set of guidelines for an approved headstone, please contact your Rabbi or cemetery to find out more. At that time an appointment should be made with a monument company to complete the inscription prior to the first anniversary of the death.
Advantages of Preplanning
This is why it is so important to put your wishes in writing with us. Helping your spouse and other family members will give you peace of mind by having all the options spelled out in advance and reduce everyone’s anxiety at a most difficult time. There will be no doubts as to your final wishes.
Making your prearrangements also lets your children or other next of kin know that there is no guilt to be associated with the style of services selected. Without undue stress and worry, family can focus on setting up other details for a proper “Celebration of Life” or other Shivah preparations.
Financially speaking, it is smart to take control of your spending. Some families may choose to spend a certain way for funerals while others may choose to select other items. Either way, you can “lock in” on today’s funeral home’s out of pocket expenses and lock out inflation.
Whether one chooses to Pre Plan because of their Medicaid “spend-down” or to compliment their estate plan, they will gain the advantage of peace of mind by creating a permanent record with us. For many other reasons it is most important to be prepared and plan. If one dies out of state or the country, without a will or without having the cemetery plot researched ahead of time, not having a proper Pre Arrangement in place will only delay burial.
When a Death Occurs
At Home or at Work
When a death occurs at home or in the workplace, a family member or co-worker should contact emergency personnel and the person’s physician if he or she was under a doctor’s care. If the death occurs
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