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PARENT NOTES INTRODUCTION WHY READ THESE STORIES
The road to behavior problems, school failure, substance abuse, etc., is paved with common irra onal beliefs that form a percep on of our world so di cult to modify, that we will endure signi cant discomfort and failure prior to addressing them.
Many of these beliefs are with us in childhood and remain in their unmodi ed version through adolescence and into adulthood. There is li le in our society, educa on or culture to help us iden fy these beliefs and determine if they are ra onal or irra onal.
Unfortunately, many of us must wait un l we experience life failures and unhappiness before there is any possibility of evalua ng of our belief system. This lack of understanding that our beliefs are the basis of our emo ons and behaviors, and lack emphases on learning e ec ve, ra onal beliefs is at the core of many of the frustra ons of parents, educators, therapists and law enforcement.
Teaching our society, its children, adolescents and adults to manage their thinking and take responsibility for their lives is the challenge of the 21st Century.
Regarding Substance abuse, Jeanne Tschann in her 1994 ar cle in Health Psychology wrote, “One current scien c theory is that those who stay with the habit (substance abuse), become increasingly dependent on alcohol or drugs, are using these substances as a medica on of sorts, a way to soothe feelings of anxiety, anger, or depression. Through their early experimenta on they hit upon a chemical x, a way to calm the feelings of anxiety or melancholy that have tormented them. Thus of the several hundred seventh and eighth grade students tracked for two years, it was those who reported higher levels of emo onal distress who subsequently went on to have the highest rates of substance abuse.”
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