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Dear Mom and Me,
To be uprooted and removed from familiar surroundings can be very dif cult. Unfortunately, your daughter has not realized just how dif cult it can be.
Before you make any inquiries about moving back, let your daughter know how unhappy you are in your new home. Talk with the staff at the complex about how you can participate
in the scheduled activities. If you have dif culties talking to
the staff, maybe your daughter can help you get involved in these activities. Making new friends will make you feel so much better. You may nd that within a short time you will be happy again. Going back to your old area may not be as easy as you think. Frequently friends have moved or plan to move to be closer to their adult children
Audrey
After I was widowed I stayed in my own home and enjoyed a network of nice women friends. Many were also widows. My very successful physician daughter, who lived a thousand miles away, would come one week in October, and one week in April for a visit. We would have a ball together! She would also phone once a week. I was very satis ed and happy with this arrangement.
Suddenly she decided, she was so busy, I should sell my house and go to a retirement complex close to her. This would allow her to visit more often. Unfortunately, this I did.
This lovely place has become a golden jail. I miss my old friends. My daughter is too busy to visit. She frequently forgets to call. I would like to leave and go back to my friends. What would you suggest I do?
Dear Lonely,
I can understand your daughter’s desire to have you closer to her. It appears to be a decision out of genuine
care and concern. But as a physician, I am surprised she
did not understand the connection between social activity and depression. Since she moved you from your home and friends, she needs to assume responsibility in helping you adjust to your new home. Talk with her. Tell her how unhappy you are. Ask her to help you seek out social activities so you can develop new friends in your new home.
Kimberley
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Mom&Me by Audrey & Kimberley