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Groton Daily Independent
Sunday, Oct, 1, 2017 ~ Vol. 25 - No. 084 ~ 38 of 43
After the Utah-based Mormon church received backlash in 2008 for helping lead the ght for California’s Proposition 8 constitutional ban on gay marriage, religious leaders spent several years carefully developing a more empathetic LGBT tone.
That was interrupted in 2015 when the church adopted new rules banning children living with gay parents from being baptized until age 18 and clarifying that people in same-sex relationships are apostates. That policy drew harsh criticism from gay church members and their supporters, who considered it a major setback from recent progress.
A year ago, church leaders updated a website created in 2012 to let members know that that attraction to people of the same sex is not a sin or a measure of their faithfulness and may never go away. But the church reminded members that having gay sex violates fundamental doctrinal beliefs that will not change.
Brittany Krallis Stapf, a lifelong Mormon who lives near Spokane, Washington, with her husband and sons, was among church members who were disappointed in Oaks’ speech. In a phone interview, Krallis, 36, said she’s teaching her sons, ages 12 and 9, to be inclusive and loving to everyone and stick up for LGBT members.
“My heart was pounding. It is very dif cult to hear an apostle give a speech you feel contradicts the message you’re trying to teach your children,” Krallis said.
She said she knows many Mormons from her generation who share her hope that church leaders will eventually soften on the issue.
“Social change comes rst,” Krallis said. “At times, it’s followed in the church.”
The twice-yearly conference is proceeding without church President Thomas S. Monson, 90, who is dealing with ailing health. It’s the rst time in more than a half century that Monson hasn’t spoken at the conferences. Before becoming church president in 2008, he served on the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles starting in 1963.
Monson has scaled back conference participation in recent years, and in May, church of cials said that he was no longer going regularly to meetings at church of ces because of limitations related to his age.
Church presidents serve until they die.
Monson is the rst church president since 1994 not to attend and make at least one speech. But prior to that, it was fairly common for presidents to miss conferences toward the end of their lives.
Dieter F. Uchtdorf, one of Monson’s top two counselors, said Monson was watching from his home. “President Monson, we love you very much,” Uchtdorf said.
Also missing will be Robert D. Hales, 85, a top leader who was hospitalized in recent days.
Church leaders use the conference to deliver spiritual guidance to members and sometimes announce church news.
Quentin L. Cook, a member of the Quorum of the Twelve, brie y denounced racism during a speech on the importance of humility. Cook reminded members that the religion’s signature scripture, the Book of Mormon, declares that “we all are unlike unto God” and said anyone who claims superiority based on race, sex, language or economic class is morally wrong and doesn’t understand God’s purpose for his followers.
Cook’s message echoed a church statement delivered in August condemning white supremacist attitudes as “morally wrong and sinful” after a protest over a Confederate War monument in Charlottesville, Virginia, descended into deadly violence.
The religion still deals with questions about their views on race, in part because the faith banned men of African descent from the lay clergy until 1978. The church now disavows the theories of the past that black skin is a sign of divine disfavor or curse, which led to the ban.
Mormon leaders also cautioned about the pitfalls of social media, where the carefully crafted images of an altered reality lead people to end up envious and discouraged and in constant search of more follow- ers and likes.
Jeffrey R. Holland, a member the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles, warned members not to let the pursuit of Christ-like perfection lead to ulcers, bulimia, depression or lowered self-esteem.
“Let’s strive for steady improvement without obsessing over what behavioral scientists call ‘toxic per- fectionism,’ “ Holland said.