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Here is a snapshot of those words in application:

• Prayer: Pray, always. Pray for a new heart. One rooted in all things His will for your life. Pray for ears to
hear and eyes to see.
• Remember what He spoke over you: Jesus tells Martha in John 11:40, “Did I not tell you….” It is not
uncommon to become so fixated on our pain that we forget what God has already told us. Ask yourself:
What word did He give me 5 months ago, 2 years ago, or 10 years ago that I could be trusting in or
applying?
• Discover the Lord's beauty in His creation: Spend as much time as you can in nature, without
distractions, just you, the Lord, and the outdoors. Laugh as often as you can and with the Lord. He loves it.
• Read and learn: Never stop running after truth, fresh facts, and new insights. This will develop
discernment and a sharp mind. "When God's word gets inside of us, it becomes the new way we process
life. This is because it rearranges our thoughts, our motives, our needs, our desires" (Becoming More Than
a Good Bible Study Girl, Lysa Terkeurst).
• Listen to music: I recommend disciplining yourself to only listen to worship music, at least for the first
month. In doing so, you’ll be blown away by what the Lord does. Afterward, allow yourself to listen to
what you feel comfortable with that still allows you to continue in your growth path. Keep in mind music is
self-talk. With each lyric, you are giving your subconscious a message, so be intentional with it. What
seeps into your heart can either be incredibly helpful or extremely damaging. If you are listening to mostly
slower love and/or breakup songs you may begin to see your spirits turn the same way. If you are listening
to mostly hateful, angry music you may begin to see yourself reflect those messages in both your inner and
outer speech. My recommendation here is balance as well as, you guessed it — intentionality. Allow
yourself to explore your feelings through music, but be consciousness with the influence and affect it is
having on your heart and your journey toward Romantic Intelligence: meaning healing, hope and
happiness.
• Exercise, not extra fries!! Make it a rule to break a sweat at least five days a week. This is a must, ladies,
and my sister would kill me if I didn’t include it. Her background is in psychology, but she’ll be the first to
tell you that physiology trumps psychology nine times out of ten if you can just find the willpower within
to get moving. We were created to move our bodies. Treat yours like the temple that it is. Remember, you
are a warrior, the very embodiment of God’s artwork.
• Memory Savor: I encourage you make a point, in whatever way you are comfortable to hold onto the good
memories you made with the person. Write them down or lock them away in your memory. We have
memories not to be flooded with pain, but as color added to the masterpiece that is us, continuously added
to by God. Each color on the canvas acts as a lesson He walked us through. It’s His power revealed in our
life. It’s where His love (and sometimes protection) is represented. You may not want or need to refer back
to these memories in the future, and that is fine, but this exercise will help you continue to focus on the
good.
• Simplify your schedule: Evaluate what is a priority and what is not. There is a time for everything, a time
to pick up the pace and a time to slow down. Learn to recognize when to adjust your speed.
• Discovery Exercises: In the appendix, I have included tear-out charts for you to fill in when you’re ready.
These will help you navigate through the rough waters of confusion.
o Self-Inventory Chart
o Expectations Chart
o A "wish list" for a mate. Writing down the desires of our hearts allows us to remain laser-focused
on the qualities we not only want in a partner but in ourselves as well.

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