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may be simply helping you to relax, it may be seeing the person in a different light, or letting go of them all
together. Whatever it may be, cherish your findings and applaud yourself – that took inner strength.

Soul Ties or, actually — soul lies
A slight detour from our current topic of the well-known forms of abuse, I want to talk to us about a different kind
of violation — a self-violation. We live in a culture where sex is a normal dating activity. And as believers, we are
not different, we are still susceptible to the self-violation of soul lies. Let me clarify, a soul tie is not a bad thing, on
the contrary, a soul tie was created by God to act as a magnet pulling husband and wife back together, regardless of
distance. How beautiful is that?

But we aren’t referring to soul ties here. We are speaking to the corruption of that: a soul lie.
A soul lie is a spirit transferred to us during sexual intercourse. These come in various forms. To name a few:
• A spirit of worthlessness
• A sprit of turmoil
• A spirit of self-righteousness
• A spirit of unrest
• A spirit of rebellion
• A spirit of lust
• A spirit of fear

The original infection could have been imposed on our partner through an unhealed wound, a corrupt mind, an
uncontrolled soul, or exposure to the spirit from someone else. Now, transferred to us, look at a few potential ways
these spirts can affect us:
• We may experience an attack on our identity.
• We may notice a decrease in our own productivity.
• We may recognize an increase in strive in our life as the assault diminishes our ability to think clearly,
and therefore communicate properly.
Doesn’t sound very pleasant, does it? Most of us — including myself — can confirm, it’s not. The good news is
there is freedom from all of it. The antidote for the soul lie — is the sole truth, Jesus Christ. Romans 8:1-3 reminds
us that there is no condemnation for those in Christ Jesus. It also tells us that the law of sin and death is powerless
against our sinful nature. But the Lord planned for that.

We get to experience His grace. Through His Son we are set free. We get to be transformed in His presence. From
here, He wants to consume our every breath. As we are baptized in the Holy Spirit we become less likely to continue
such behavior as to avoid grieving the Holy Spirit, and ourselves. This means the harmful spirits that once followed
us around as a result of our own self-violation are no longer housed in our mind, spirit or soul.

Sexual Revival
Despite the risk of starting World War III in the Church because of a highly, highly controversial topic, I’d like to
discuss with you yet another new term — sexual revival. Let me first state I am not recommending this outside
marriage. However, I am recommending a sexual healing plan be at the forefront of your union as husband and wife
if either of you have experienced sexual assault or infidelity. The reason I state this is simple: both sexual violation
and betrayal have the ability to damage the way we see, experience and react to physical intimacy. A sexual revival
will require communication: talk about it as little or much as you both are comfortable with, but at least talk about it.
Be sensitive to one another, be patient. Being on either side — the one who experienced the pain or the one listening
to the descriptions – is difficult. Be sensitive to that.

In addition to building a strong foundation of trust, a sexual revival with your husband or wife will allow you to
enjoy their touch without the pain of a past violation robbing every second. In this revival, the haunting presence of
corruption no longer has a foot to stand on. You’ll experience what the Lord desires for us in sex: joyful oneness.

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