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The way you answer these questions will paint a picture of what you want, what you like and dislike. Knowing what
you want is a beautiful thing. It is an important thing. What you want determines what you do, and what you do
reveals a lot about you. Who you are when no one is watching says a lot. How you act when everyone is watching is
even more revealing as it is at that point you have an audience. Are they giving the same message? Are you living
authentically, in an unswerving manner to who you want to be? Are you at peace with yourself? You can only bring
good to someone’s life if you are at rest with your own.

These questions are not meant to overwhelm you. They are meant to help you in your relationships and your quality
of life. How you answer them is up to you. There are no right or wrong answers. Just honest ones.

Life Structure
What is your standard of living? By this, I mean, what socioeconomic status do you expect to live in? Is your dream
home a shack in the mountains surrounded by land and farm animals? Or do you need the city lights, traffic patterns,
and noise to help you sleep at night? What type of car do you want to drive? What country, state, region, and city to
you want to call home? How much family involvement do you want? Are you someone who thrives off family
dinners with mom and dad, or do you prefer to support and love family from a distance? In a family crisis, how loyal
are you to the comfort and happiness of each family member? Are you willing to give them financial help anytime?
How much? Will the terms be a gift or a loan? When do you draw the line? Are you a natural saver, or do you need
an extra push to set aside money each paycheck?

What are your spending habits like? Are you someone who will spend the extra time to drive across town to save a
few cents on gas? Do you have to follow the newest trends, or do you use the products you own until they are no
longer recognizable or functional? Do you want kids? If so, how many and when? What are your pet peeves? Be
aware of the reasons behind your answers. The answers you give reflect your heart, the childhood you lived, and the
expectations you have for life as an adult. The person you pair yourself with will come with their own set of
motivations and reasons surrounding their answers. This is why getting to know one another, I mean really knowing
one another, is so crucial. If you want the relationship to last, take your time at this stage. Don’t rush it. Enjoy it!

Hobbies, Dreams, and Goals
What makes you come alive? Do you live for jumping out of planes, or do you prefer to watch the action on a big
screen? Do you live for surfing, horseback riding, hiking, fishing, hunting, snowboarding, skiing, playing sports,
reading, painting, drawing, gardening, dancing, or all things related to music? Are you someone who expects to
travel a lot? If that's the case, where are we traveling to, Vegas, the Grand Canyon, New Zealand, Paris, California,
Hawaii, or Spain? What are we doing on this trip, enjoying fine dining experiences and room service or a full
itinerary? Are we backpacking or staying at the Four Seasons? Hostels or hotels? Are you someone who will always
live to work? Or are you someone who views a job as just a paycheck? What kind of goals are you working toward?
Do you even have goals? What kind of timeline do you have yourself on to achieve those goals? What dreams do
you have? What is on your bucket list? How do you plan on getting there? What sacrifices will you have to make?
How far will you go to see your dreams come true?

Take your answers to the feet of God. Thank him for where He is leading you. Share the desires of your heart with
Him. He loves when we are specific because He is detail oriented too.

Vulnerability, Intimacy, and Sex

Let’s talk the “S” word: surrender. (Don’t worry, we’ll talk sex later on in this section).

Since the feminist movement in the late 1960s, our culture has seen a great fight against male and female roles, the
equality of the two, and the submission of one to the other. Even the women of the Church have struggled with the
well-known description of husbands and wives in Ephesians 5. “Wives submit to your husbands....” and right there a
majority of women living in such a controversial time as the feminist movement stop reading. Then, as a result, a
good amount of the girls raised by those women weren’t briefed on the beauty that lies within the rest of the
passage. The first thing I note when reading this message from Paul to the city of Ephesus is his established

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