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its glory. A wonderfully beautiful bond between husband and wife, we become one. Sex allows us a physical outlet
to apply relationship; to express love. Remember, sex is not about a performance, it’s about what you’re pairing it
with that makes it successful and wonderful.

Science confirms that we must trust our partner in order to achieve orgasm. In her book The Male Brain: A
Breakthrough Understanding of How Men and Boys Think, Dr. Louann Brizendine brings forth a neurobiological
confirmation of this, “In order to reach orgasm, both men and women must first turn off a few parts of the brain- like
the amygdala, the brain’s danger and alert center – and the areas for self-consciousness and worrying – the anterior
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cingulate cortex, or ACC”. In other words, to truly enjoy the miracle that is physical ecstasy, we must first trust
one another.

Trust takes time. Trust takes commitment, and it takes courage – courage to let go and to let our guard down. Sex is
the ultimate form of trust. It is the ultimate gift we can give someone: to share our bodies with them. Don’t allow
this culture to downplay that. We get to learn them, all of them, inside and out, from head to toe. We get to know
them, really know them. We have the honor of memorizing that one person. Every freckle, every scar, and every
curvature that makes them who they are. Their voice feeds our soul; it is safe to us – it is home. Cherish that. Honor
and protect that.

24 Brizendine, 72-73.

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