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Healing from Infidelity

Who
Thirty men and women of all ages, stages in life – single, in a relationship, divorced, married, or remarried

When
August 28, 2017

What
The following question was presented to all participants:
In your opinion, what is the best way to heal from getting cheated on?

Data Collected: These are their answers.

Person #1: Short and sweet. It's just like anything else in life. Life happens, and you have to move on and keep
looking forward.

Person #2: I would imagine time and the ability to control your mind.

Person #3: I would say a prayer and let go, let God. It intentionally hurts, of course, but there was a reason and plan
to come from it. It makes you stronger, helps you grow your discernment and understand your needs. I think it helps
more than it hurts.

Person #4: It's hard to fully heal from getting cheated on, in my opinion, because your guard is always up after
experiencing that. I dealt with it by completely closing down and not talking about it. I think a lot of times those
who get cheated on are the people who put everyone else first, so then, when it crumbles, you're left learning to love
yourself all over again. I just tried to focus on the things that made me happy and do the things that were on my
bucket list as much as I could. I would say I'm still not over it, and sometimes, I feel it would just be easier not to
date because I sometimes feel I'm happier that way, but unfortunately, society makes us feel that if we're not in a
relationship then something's wrong, when that's not the case at all.

Person #5: Going on adventures, hiking, sitting on the beach. Avoid pictures of them. Make new friends and avoid
too many alcoholic beverages.

Person #6: Honestly, I haven't really figured that out. I just know you have to know your self-worth and move on.
The scars are there as a reminder of who was the better person during that relationship, and building back trust for
another person is always hard. You just have to remember how you felt when it happened to you and know you were
the better person. Always give your heart time to heal but never let your insecurities define who you are. You
always deserve to be treated with respect, and your significant other should always know that.

Person #7: I honestly allowed myself to cry and be hurt! If I didn't, then I never loved her from the beginning! I also
prayed to God to help me move on and asked Him to help me understand the situation. I also had to eventually
forgive the person but, at the same time, let them know that I could not be with someone who had cheated on me.
Once is enough, especially in a relationship. If she did it once, she could definitely do it again. I also kept myself
busy. I went on long road trips and hiked on my own. It is not an easy thing to deal with. Pain takes time to heal. I
know some of my other friends took longer to heal then I did, and others healed faster. Some go through it for
weeks, some for months and some for even years!

Person #8: Two wrongs don't make a right. I found that I had to be the bigger person and not look back – meaning I
wouldn't go back to that person ever. Once a cheater always a cheater. Like a thief or a liar, it is a habit that they
can't break. It is hard, yes, but I found I had to occupy my time with things I enjoyed, so it didn't eat me up. We are
all humans, and it is unfortunate that people do the things they do. Honestly, at this point in my life right now, I have
no problem cutting people out of my life that are not working toward the same goals as me.

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