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Person #17: I think the best way to deal with infidelity – as cliché as it sounds – is time. Time does seem to heal
everything. I think it’s also realizing that the problem may not have been you. It's a combination of things,
sometimes not feeling worthy of the other person or just not knowing what you want or don't want. I also believe
that God is the only one who can really heal you from it. With that being said, it is an everyday choice, though. Just
like going back to an eating disorder, having suicidal thoughts, even struggling with singleness at times. It's just like
any other struggle/trail, God is the one true Healer.

Person #18: I took my broken heart to the Lord and laid it down at His feet. I asked for forgiveness for anything and
anything I might have done that was not according to His word. I asked Him for His wisdom and understanding.
Honestly, I didn't have any definite proof that I was cheated on with either husband, and I remember actually
thinking that I wish I did so I could get out of my first marriage, as my understanding of the word was it is
acceptable to divorce if one was unfaithful. I felt unfaithfulness with my second husband and again made it clear I
would want out of the marriage but had no definite proof. So, I think the bottom line is only God can heal our hearts,
and I don't believe any one person will fulfill us, as God is a jealous God and wants to be our first love. Although, I
do believe He will give us the desires of our heart when he is put first, and we yield to His desires and will for us,
which is so much more amazing then what we can imagine. So, I have laid men I cared about at His feet, knowing I
was doing of His will, trusting Him that He will bring me an incredible man for being obedient and trusting Him.

Person #19
My biggest advice is to never forget stuff and don't actually "get over it." And what I mean is, those painful times,
let them always be painful. As long as you can actually be sound enough to analyze those times and critique
yourself, those will always be the best times to learn from.

Person #20: I think we like to run from pain and feel that in order to truly heal, that moment should never be
painful. But I don’t think that's right or even how Jesus handles stuff. The cross will always be painful, yet there’s
victory there. Same with our pain.

Person #21: Time...time…time…and prayers. After being cheated on, you'll tend to question or lose sight of your
self-worth. It is so damaging to your overall mental health, as, without giving time to heal and mend the broken
heart, you tend to get in more bad relationships because of the mental status you're currently in, which I think turns
into a bad cycle that just gets worse and worse.

Person #22: We must humble ourselves from an elevated posture and acknowledging our error or sin. Then begin to
love that person by praying for them (even if only mechanical at first). Pray through until a love for that person’s
soul is realized in their condition and release them, desiring the best for them. If possible, do things for them they do
not deserve. Above all, ask God to walk you through forgiving them.

Person #23: Stay so close to Jesus that no matter what anyone does to you, you are able to get God's strength to
forgive them, knowing they are weak, and go on. Staying in that place of intimacy with Jesus and living in His
Glory all can break around you, and you can live in a place of peace and joy.

Person #24: I'd say it takes times. It takes time to heal and trust again. Not just the person who cheated on you, but
to trust others in general.

Person #25: How to heal and move on? Get hot!

Person 26: I honestly believe, if you have been cheated on, that person is not for you anyway, and you deserve more
from a partner, so start your search again, but be more cautious and choose someone who doesn't just say they have
the same beliefs but exhibit them as well. Each breath we take, every second we have, is a blessing. Don't waste it
on someone who is not giving you their all.

Person 27: I would say time and distance. And I'm sure, for each person, it's different. The healing process can look
very different for girls and guys. I also think realizing the Lord handles us all with a unique, personal, gentle touch is
important to remember. And finally, I would say it's important to distance yourself from all things surrounding them
on social media as well.

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