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8 TIPS FOR A HAPPY MARRAIGE
The number one key to maintaining a suc- cessful and happy marriage is the golden art of communication. Being able to establish an open line of communication
between you and your partner will avoid misunder- standings and complications down the road. Here are some tips for how to have a happy, successful mar- riage.
SCORE KEEPING
When you see that something is really important to your partner, it’s not losing or giving in to let them have their way. It is caring enough about another’s feelings to support and honour what is important to them. You will nd if you compromise some of the time and they compromise some of the time, every- body wins.
SETTLE MATTERS BEFORE BED
Never go to bed angry. Whatever is bothering you, talk it out before going to sleep so each day, so you wake up with a clean slate and a fresh perspective in the morning.
FORGIVE AND MOVE FORWARD
Learning how to solve an argument is key. Not holding a grudge makes for a happy marriage. It’s important to keep moving forward and not dwell on arguments
SPEAK YOUR MIND
When you trust that someone loves you and is com- mitted to you, it gives you the freedom to speak your mind. Nobody is walking out the door simply because you have something to say that is di cult or unpleas- ant to hear. That said, be truthful, not hurtful. Even in the heat of an argument, think before you speak. Never say anything you can’t take back.
KEEP YOUR SENSE OF HUMOUR
A sense of humour is imperative. Many situations can be improved with a generous helping of laughter. It really is the best medicine.
KEEP GOING
Marriage is a marathon, not a sprint and every marriage has its ups and downs, but when you have a meeting of the minds on the big issues, you know you will be united in your approach to nding solutions.
UNPLUG TO RECONNECT
Listening to each other and really being present when you spend time together is essential. If you are trying have a conversation, both partners need to put down the phone or iPad, turn o the TV, and really pay attention to each other.
