Page 62 - Sonoma County Gazette October 2018

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Oct 4 ~ Hot Dog Thursdays at the Pacific Air Museum - Have a Hot Dog Lunch among the aircraft. $5, Lunch, Pacific Coast Air Museum, One Air Museum Way, at N. Laughlin and Becker, Santa Rosa, 707-575-7900, pacificcoastairmuseum.org
Oct 12,19,26 ~ Family Yoga - Family Yoga presented by Ozlem, FREE, 11a, Guerneville Regional Library, 14107 Armstrong Woods Rd, Guerneville, 707- 869-9004
Oct 29 ~ Explore Foster Parenting
Then he gave me one of THE most incredible pieces of parenting advice.
Oct 14 ~ Sonoma County Pomo Dancers
Oct 28 ~ FUNtazmagoria - Spook-tacular activities including a Pumpkin Plop, Mad Scientist Laboratory, Glow-in-the- Dark art, and more. $12, Members FREE, 10a-2p
Charles Schulz Museum
2301 Hardies Ln., Santa Rosa, 707-579-4452, schulzmuseum.org
“Picture your child in a pitch dark padded room. Our human instinct is to feel for the walls and gauge where we are. Each time we find a wall we feel
a little safer. Your NO is her wall. When she hears NO she will feel that wall, then persist and test again looking for the next wall. Once she finds there
will always be a wall, she will feel safe, and she will stop testing. If you do not stand firm with your NO she will keep testing until she finds her true sense of internal safety.”
Ceremonial Pomo dances by youth and adults in traditional regalia. Free, 12p-1p, Sebastopol Plaza Gazebo, 6908 Weeks Way, Sebastopol, pomoproject.org
Then, the doctor put Sara and me in Time Out Bootcamp for a week. Every time she tested me, I put her in the Time Out Chair for one minute. The first few days she was there 50 times a day. I wasn’t allowed to let one infraction slip by. And then, one week later she woke me up, took my hand and walked me around the house pointing and saying “No” to the refrigerator, toilet, garbage disposal, and heater. Then she jumped in my arms and whispered: “ I love you, Mommy.” And boot camp was over for the rest of her life. She felt safe, and I felt heard. And I learned that a consistent NO is a profound act of love.
- SRJC Petaluma will host a Dia de los Muertos event as part of a city- wide, cultural celebration. Free, 10:00 AM - 3:00p, Santa Rosa Junior College, Petaluma, 680 Sonoma Mountain Parkway, Petaluma, dia.santarosa.edu/
Oct 20 ~ Floating Pumpkin Patch - Santa Rosa Rec & Park's 8th Annual Floating Pumpkin Patch! Details: https://tinyurl. com/ycbtagy4 $10 Entry Fee (pumpkin included), pre-sale tickets only, 1:30p - 6:00p, Ridgway Swim Center, 455 Ridgway Ave, Santa Rosa, tinyurl.com/ ycbtagy4
- Martial arts with historical fencing techniques in a fun & safe format - great for kids ages 7 & up. free @ 2 pm, 2:00p - 3:00p, Guerneville Regional Library, 14107 Armstrong Woods Rd, Guerneville, 707-869-9004
Oct 20, 21 ~ Sturgeons Mill Demonstration Days - Historic Sawmill and Working Museum, FREE, 10-3p, Sturgeon’s Mill, 2150 Green Hill Rd., Sebastopol, 707-829- 2479, sturgeonsmill.com
Oct 20, 21 ~ Open Cockpit - Here is your chance to get up close to selected aircraft and look inside. $5-$10/ Free for Military and Children under 5, 10-4p., Pacific Coast Air Museum, One Air Museum Way at N. Laughlin and Becker, Santa Rosa, 707-575-7900, pacificcoastairmuseum.org
Thru Jan 27 ~ Working Dogs Exhibition
Twenty years later I overheard my three girls recounting what they were NOT allowed to do when they were growing up. I craned my ears expecting to hear a litany of how I robbed them of childhood happiness by saying NO to things asked for. Instead, I listened to an appreciation of how much I cared.
Oct 20 ~ Martial Arts - Foam Weapons
Thru Mar 10 ~ Then Came the Dog Exhibition - Discover the life of a man and his best friend through the lens of the Peanuts comic strip. $5-$12
Oct 17 ~ Home School Day - Celebrate Snoopy and his friends by meeting some live animals and learning about animals through hands-on art and science activities. $6-$8, 10a-12p
Kids Film Series
Oct 14 ~ Summer Movie Nights - Movies start after dark, approximately 9p. Bring a blanket and all of your friends! FREE, 9p, Healdsburg Plaza, Healdsburg Ave. and Matheson St., Healdsburg, avfilmsociety.org
Oct 19 ~ Family Movie Night - Come join the Central Library at this monthly movie series every 3rd Friday night! There will be snacks and family fun movies to enjoy! FREE, 4p, 4p - 5:45p, Central Santa Rosa Library, 211 E Street, Santa Rosa, 707-545-0831, sonomacounty. libcal.com
“Our friends had TV’s in their rooms in grade school and could watch horror films before bed! What were the parent’s thinking?”
“When we wanted to watch a Nickelodeon show, mom made us count the acts of violence, and if there were more than 20 we weren’t allowed to watch it. She even tried to ruin Disney movies because they average 40 acts of violence per hour and a parent always dies, but we teamed up and fought back and won!” (laughter)
“And when Bonnie turned 17, mom thought she was finally off- duty. And we had to call her and say “Mom, Bonnie thinks you don’t love her anymore because you don’t give her consequences and curfews.”
Lori Freson, M.A. writes - “News flash: Kids need you to say ‘no.’ Children are not emotionally or developmentally equipped to make major decisions
or rules or to self-regulate. That’s your job. And if you don’t do it, your child will feel a sense of confusion and internal chaos, which could manifest itself in stomachaches, headaches, tantrums and even ulcers.”
The other side of NO is loving consistency which was the hardest and most important skill I attempted to master in my 30 years of parenting. And I overheard it’s the one they appreciated the most.
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Oct 20 ~ Dia de los Muertos Celebration
Meeting and Discussion, FREE, Registration Requested, 2255 Challenger Way, Suite 100, Santa Rosa, 707-565-4274, sonomafostercare.org
By Mo McElroy
It’s easy to be a Monday morning quarterback and see how the concept of NO
Children’s Museum
1835 W. Steele Lane, Santa Rosa, 707-546- 4069, cmosc.org, info@cmosc.org
Oct 3,10,17,24,31 ~ Tool Time - Explore real tools and practice your building skills, in a safe, facilitated environment.
Oct 6 ~ KidsWorks Creative Workshops - Explore and play with us. First Saturday of every month FREE, 9-12p, s
Oct 6,13 ~ Art Jam - Visiting artist series in Ella’s Art Studio. Doors will open just before 1pm. $12, Members FREE, 1-3p,
Oct 20 ~ S3 Science Speaker Series - Nutrition & Health. $12, Members FREE
played out on my little team now, but when I was in the thick of it, NO could be as vital as saving a life or as seemingly insignificant as refusing the third popsicle. NO can be a magic wand to use with skill, purpose, and creativity. Overusing the word itself can dilute the message (the average toddler hears NO 400 times a day), but in the hands of a conscious parent, it’s a life-shaper.
The memory of learning the magic of NO with my first two-year-old is crystal clear. And so are the times I was too lazy, didn’t want to argue, gave in and swallowed that NO down like a bitter pill while they wore me down and got their way. The vigilance of 8,760 hours of parenting one two-year-old was exhausting. I did it three times.
Oct 13,14, 20, 21 ~ Tolay Fall Festival
When Sara was two, we moved into a new house that had no “rules.” Before the boxes were unpacked and house rules were in place, she began flipping the garbage disposal switch, flushing the toilets, emptying out the refrigerator and lying on the floor heater. This happened over and over again until I was livid and screaming “NO!” all day long. One day my rage hit the breaking point, and I called the pediatrician literally crying for help. He firmly instructed me to take the phone in my room, close the door, and he put me in a time out!
Two weekends of old-time, nature- based fun. $5 Adults, $3 Children 12 and under, 11a-2p, Tolay Lake Regional Park, 5869 Cannon Lane, Petaluma, parks. sonomacounty.ca.gov/
Oct 13 ~ Honoring the Whole Animal - Make sausage, spin, knit, weave. Taste meatballs, artisan cheeses, ice cream. Riding and petting. Free, 9a-1p, Veteran's Memorial Building, 1351 Maple Avenue, Santa Rosa
Oct 23 ~ Sensory Friendly Afternoons
Sensory Friendly Afternoons exclusive to families of children with special needs. FREE, Pre-registration required,
A tribute to how much better life is when we share the working day with dogs. $5- $12