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I spent a good portion of time earlier in this book/program talking about how important it is to “maintain a relationship by managing disappointment.” When you spend a lot of time with someone and have fallen in love with them and then realize that they have some faults and hlaws, it is inevitable that they will disappoint you. When your partner disappoints you, it stimulates the need for a “repair.” Sometimes the repairs are minor and sometimes the relationship needs an overhaul, and sadly, sometimes one or both of you realize the relationship is beyond repair.
Until you reach the point of deciding to end a relationship, forgiveness is an important process in repairing disappointments of all kinds in close relationships, because forgiveness restores harmony.
Couples experience disappointment a lot more than they are willing to admit to — from little things like:
“I hate it when I am sitting around trying to get work done, and all of a sudden you burst out into a song that was running around in your head, at a very loud volume”;
to bigger things like:
“I hate it when you make it obvious that you are attracted to (so and so) and Klirt with them right in front of me.”
And there are bigger things than that that too.
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