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That person smiled and said my advice sounded like a good prescription; and I saw some nods of acknowledgement in the crowd. However, the pleasant surprise I got was on the seminar evaluation forms. When the seminar ended and the participants hilled out the seminar evaluation, they were asked what their favorite part of the seminar was. The answer given most frequently was “the prescription.” But as happy as I was that something was memorable and impressed as favorite, I didn’t know why. After all, that was the hirst time I had ever given that “formula.” It was off the top of my head and it was on the heels of me almost impulsively saying something stupid. I gave myself the homework of seeing how this prescription hits into my ideas about love and how to make it last, and I think I found the answer.
One thing that makes new love heady and fulhilling and exciting is the degree to which people dedicate themselves to one another — and they do it effortlessly; and with enough conviction that they can do it often, even every day. Almost anyone except the most self centered of people dedicates themselves to making their partner happy, secure and valued at the beginning of a loving relationship. Here is what they do — in the beginning.
• They expend effort to look their best.
• They are complimentary and hlattering toward one another. • They are tolerant and forgiving toward one another.
• They promote one another’s health.
• They are genuinely interested in one another.
• They are fascinated by their shared interests.
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