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 Denial - Refusal to acknowledge or recognize reality. Individuals who abuse drugs or alcohol often deny that they have a problem, while victims of traumatic events may deny that the event ever occurred.
o Healthy – Feeling high levels of distress and applying the skill Push Away, leaving a situation for a short period of time with a plan to return and address the distress.
o Unhealthy – Leaving a situation with no plan to return or address distress, denying what is real and letting your problems build, invalidating your own experience.
 Devaluation – The individual deals with distress by attributing exaggerated negative qualities to themselves or others.
o Healthy – Feeling high levels of distress and applying the Comparisons skill to aspects or objects that are involved to be able to take small steps to address the situation or distress.
o Unhealthy – Decreasing your self-esteem, hurting others, or minimizing the impact of the distress.
 Displacement – Taking out frustrations, feelings, and impulses on people or objects that are less powerful or less threatening.
o Healthy – Feeling high levels of distress and punching a pillow, tearing a phone book, holding an ice cube in your hand.
o Unhealthy – Destroying property, “kicking the dog”, making those around you feel miserable.
 Projection - The individual deals with distressing emotions or situations by falsely attributing unacceptable feelings, impulses, or thoughts to others.
o Healthy – When you are feeling cool, calm, and calculating you identify with the same qualities on others, treating others with respect when they are not being respectful towards you.
o Unhealthy – Denying your own experience by placing it on others, fearing someone will leave you and blaming them for being distant, feeling frustrated and accusing others of being angry.