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Nurturing Support Systems SOC
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BARRIERS TO NURTURING SUPPORT SYSTEMS
There are many barriers to nurturing support systems. This list identifies many common examples and the potential hidden messages attached to each.
I am too busy. (You are not worth the effort)
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I never thought of it (I don’t consider your needs, I am too focused on myself).
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They don’t want anything from me (I am not worthy of them).
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We fight all the time (It is too much of a bother to do/passive-aggressive).
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Our relationship never needed this before (I want things to be like they were).
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I am in too much pain or distress to do this now (It’s not worth the effort).
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