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Core Mindfulness EFFECTIVENESS
Effectiveness (EFF)—Doing what works
EFFECTIVENESS is NOT about:
 what’s right or wrong, fair or unfair, or what I should do
 reacting to or arguing about how I wish the situation was
 liking or agreeing
 being stubborn by trying to prove I’m right & you’re wrong
 doing what I want to do
EFFECTIVENESS is:
 responding to the actual situation
 acting skillfully
 playing by the rules
 taking a Time-Out—there are times when I may need a break
 doing what helps me reach my goals
What is my long-term goal?
What do I want next week, next month, or next year?
What is my short-term goal?
What do I want right now or tomorrow?
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