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Unit 15: Follow Up: The Repair Stage
What should I practise now?
Strengthening Relationships &
Building Children’s Emotional Intelligence

SKILLS TO PRACTISE / STRENGTHEN RAG

1 Always carrying out Repair when someone has been affected by a child’s actions. Ensuring this is

a certainty so everyone knows their needs are taken seriously and there is not a permissive culture.

2 Scheduling a specific time for Repair, following the school’s procedures. I use visual
cues, like this picture on the right, especially when working with young children, to

help them be clear on the purpose and expectations of the discussion.

3 Making sure the child making amends knows s/he wasn’t ‘bad’ and instead knows the thing they

found difficult / how their own needs were met wasn’t good for those around them and repair is

important.

4 Using ‘Chair Swap Perspectives’ (see toolkit) to help the child consider how it was for other
people. If the child finds this hard, asking those involved to say how it was for them using the Speak

Up 4 Better tool (I might ask those affected if they are able to do this face-to-face or a make a quick

video clip – it only takes a minute - if they want to do this – if not, I speak on their behalf).

5 Explaining that empathy is a skill if a child says they don’t care about causing harm – and also

explaining that it is important we put something in place to help them improve the skill as it is a

really important one – just like being able to swim, read or count.