Do you talk about ‘rules’ or do
                                                                             you focus on children thinking
                                                                          through what will help everyone
                                                                                to feel safe, content and
                                                                                             able to learn?
                                                                      Is the focus on telling children
                                                                   how they should behave or helping
                                                                    them with the skills to think of the
                                                                         needs of those around them?