Page 4 - Rudyard Kipling Memory Jogger Slides Febriary 2022

Traditional Tug of War ‘Control’ Methods:

Child controls Adult controls

Permissive approaches Authoritative & Authoritarian

▪ Child’s ‘wins’ control ▪ Adult ‘wins’ control approaches
▪ Childs own needs are met.
▪ Adult sacrifices their own needs. ▪ Adult needs met
▪ Child’s needs less important
The problem with control and compliance methods:

1. They do not work all of the time or with all children
2. They only work whilst the adult is in control and monitoring the child – they do not teach independence
3. They work well in the short-term but do not get to the root of the problem.
4. They do not teach the long-term pro-social and pro-learning skills needed to do well

Based on the work of Diana Baumrind