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In summary, when needs are not met well, we may:

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The stress response is activated The stress response is activated The person’s brain seeks ways
(we refer to this as Danger Brain). (we refer to this as Danger Brain). to ‘fill the gap’ of unmet needs.

The person has the skills to The person does not yet have The person does not yet have

tolerate the unpleasant the skills to tolerate the the skills to hold the urge.
feeling in ways that are helpful unpleasant feeling.

to them and others. They may then fill that need in
They fight, flight, flock, fawn, ways that are unhelpful to them
If the brain seeks to fill that need freeze or flop. or others.
in unhelpful ways, they have the

skills to hold the urge and seek
more helpful ways.