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I understand that:

1. The way I respond will change the biology of the child: I can increase the child’s stress and risk
escalating things further OR I can work to reduce the stressors and get the child back on track.

2. I am more likely to get the child back on track by helping them to feel I am on their side and

understand what is going on for them. I can ‘Connect to Calm’.

3. The way I respond will make a difference to how emotionally secure the child feels with me. I can
respond in a way that strengthens our relationship or in a way that fractures it. I know the stronger

our relationship, the more likely the child will want to work with me to feel better and do better.

4. I can respond in a way that helps meet the child’s 5C Needs in that moment - so they feel more

connected, more capable, more in control. Or I can respond in a way that makes them feel worse.
5. I can respond in a way that helps meet the child’s 5C needs over time - helping to weigh their

Balance of Life towards resilience and recolour the lenses with which they see the world to yellow.

I can now (or am working to get better at)

1. Stay regulated, whatever the incident – I can stay kind, positive and calm.

2. Speak and act in ways which helps the child to feel I am on their side and understand what they
are experiencing at that moment. I am really good at connecting with children – even when they
are really struggling to keep to expectations. My skills mean they become rational quickly.

3. Help the child get back on track. I am really good at helping the child find a way to get back on
track with what they should be doing.

The impact this will have over time:

▪ I will become more confident at managing situations. This will help me to feel empowered and give
me a sense of control.

▪ Children will get back on track quickly.
▪ Children will feel more relationally safe. This will help them to feel more connected and that they

count which will in turn help them to become more resilient and stay calm when things go wrong.