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Reframing behaviour: the aim should be to work out the unmet
needs and missing skills beneath the visible behaviours
What we actually see:
Incorrect uniform Refusal to do something Being the joker Exploding angrily
What it is really about:
I need to feel I count. One or more of my 5C Needs
I need to feel I count. I have a big need for control.
I have a tough time regulating are not met well.
I have a tough time being I have a tough time being
big feelings & managing I have a tough time tolerating
flexible. flexible.
impulses. unpleasant feelings.
We can use carrots and sticks to quash behaviour for the moment – but it will likely pop up again.
Helping children to understand and address (in prosocial ways) their unmet needs and build missing skills is
the best way to secure change that lasts.
