Page 32 - Course 4 Strengths & Skills.

Skills that support helpful (pro-social & pro-learning) Behaviour

SELF-REGULATION

RED AMBER GREEN
I feel peaceful,
content, proud.
EMOTIONAL AWARENESS & LITERACY
I am attentive and aware of my emotions. I can use the Affect Mat and Emotion Wheel to help me describe them.
I have a range of words to describe my affect so it is precise (granulated).
I can identify the 5C need (and specific card with this) behind my ‘affect’ accurately.
EMOTIONAL TOLERATION
When I have an upsetting thought or feeling, I can work through it and self-soothe in a way that is ok for others around me.
I can manage the feelings of frustration or disappointment when things go wrong (frustration or disappointment control) in
ways that are ok for others around me - e.g. by explaining what is up rather than screaming.
EMOTIONAL CONTROL
I regulate and manage my emotions when I feel anxious, worried or sad (anxiety control) – it doesn’t stop me doing things.
I can tolerate challenging or boring tasks (task tolerance control) and surf the unpleasant feeling to finish the task.
I can change my energy and emotions to suit a situation - e.g. excitement in the playground; calm as I walk into a library.
EMOTIONAL FLEXIBILITY
I can stay calm & steady when corrected or given feedback which feels critical, knowing it is to help me improve & do well.
My reactions and display of feelings are at a level and intensity relative to the situation.
I stay in positive positions and challenge, negotiate or solution-find positively.
When I get anxious, upset or frustrated, I look at the evidence and explain the different ways it could be interpreted.
EMOTIONAL RESILIENCE
When I experience big feelings (affect), I use a strategy to become calm quickly so other people are not affected badly.
I can ‘bounce back’ from feelings of sadness, anxiety or anger in an appropriate amount of time relative to the situation -
e.g. if I cannot have what I want for dinner, I shift my ‘affect’ to neutral within minutes, not hours.