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In summary, when needs are not met well, we may:




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  The stress response is activated                    The person’s brain seeks ways                        The stress response is activated
  (we refer to this as Danger Brain).                 to ‘fill the gap’ of unmet needs.                    (we refer to this as Danger Brain).


  The person has the skills to                        The person does not  yet have                        The person does not  yet have

  tolerate the unpleasant                             the skills to hold the urge.                         the skills to tolerate the
  feeling in ways that are helpful                                                                         unpleasant feeling.

  to them and others.                                 They may then fill that need in


  If the brain seeks to fill that need                ways that are unhelpful to them                      They fight, flight, flock, fawn,
                                                                                                           freeze or flop.
  in unhelpful ways, they have the                    or others.

  skills to hold the urge and seek
  more helpful ways.
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