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Positive Strokes



                Helping children understand the level of noticing they need & patterns of
                seeking it is the first step to helping them meet their need in more positive ways.




                         Strokes = unit of recognition




            Warm fuzzy positive strokes                                                   Cold, prickly negative strokes





















       ▪ We all need to feel noticed. Some need more than others to feel ok.


       ▪ We can be noticed in good (warm fuzzies) or negative (cold pricklies) ways.

       ▪ The more you give, the more you get – good or bad!


       ▪ Warm fuzzies can be earned (for doing well) but the best are FREE – just for being us.

       ▪ Knowing what ‘strokes’ we need puts us in control – we can find ways to receive them

           that are good for everyone.


    Adapted from Eric Berne, Transactional Analysis & Claude Steiner – The Original Warm Fuzzy Tale
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