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thing you become. It’s a habit that disciples discover goes a long way in
creating and maintaining fellowship.
And it will keep you plenty busy between now and the next time you
and your discipler get together.

It’s called “Grace Talk” and it’s simply asking this question: When
you finish a conversation with someone, does it feel as if they’ve received
grace through you?
Remember that grace, as we live it out, is giving a gift of encourage-
ment. It’s saying or doing something that elevates others, helping them
feel more confident about life and Jesus.
Grace Talk is well described in Ephesians 4:29:

“Let no unwholesome word proceed from your mouth, but only
such a word as is good for edification according to the need of the
moment, so that it will give grace to those who hear” (NASB).

And that moment in question? It’s every moment—which means that
in every conversation disciples are aware that their words matter and can
build or erode fellowship and community.
So, between now and your next meeting with your discipler, intention-

ally practice Grace Talk. It may feel stiff at first but will soon become how
you naturally communicate.
Notice the difference in your conversations—and the fellowship you
experience.

How to Speak Grace Talk
1. In any conversation, begin with a blessing. Speak something

positive to the other person—share a compliment or let the person know
you’re happy to be with her. During the conversation ask the Spirit to
speak to you something that you can say to encourage her.
2. If given an opportunity to serve, do so. But don’t make an empty
promise—if you say you’ll pray for the person, do so (you could start right
on the spot). If you say you’ll do something specific, follow up and do it.

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