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TOPUCU Standard Workbook                                                                                                                                                                                                      Lesson 1: Part 1



      LESSON 1: PART 1
                                                                                                                                      Now think about what happens after you’ve                How many of us have started out the
      WHY DO I KEEP DOING THAT?                                                                                                       driven the same route 15 or 20 times – like              New Year with a resolution for change or
                                                                                                                                                                                               self-improvement? Unfortunately, these
                                                                                                                                      your drive to work. For one thing, you no
                                                                                                                                      longer need your GPS. And when you arrive                resolutions aren’t as simple to keep as they
                                                                                                                                      at the destination, often you don’t even                 were to make! If they were really that simple,
                                                                                                                                      remember the details of your drive. You say              none of us would have to recommit to our
      Today we are going to talk about habits.                 not have to engage in self-analysis when                               to yourself, “Did I stop at that traffic light           New Year’s Resolutions every 2 weeks.
      Why? Because habits are a prime principle                undertaking routine tasks.                                             today? You don’t remember that right turn                Often, a critical failure in any resolution
      of life. The famous English poet/playwright                                                                                     at the gas station or the left turn at the               is a lack of understanding of how one’s
      John Dryden once said, “We first make our                These routine tasks – habits – are stored in                           7-Eleven. Each little step along the journey,            habits are involved, and how to SKILLFULLY
      habits, then our habits make us.”                        your basal ganglia. If you imagine your brain                          the braking, the turns, the gentle pauses in             MASTER the TRANSITION from one habit
                                                               as an onion, your basal ganglia would be at                            the congestion, have become so routine, that             to a better one.
      Now, if you’re like most people, you never               the core—surrounded by the outer layers                                the entire drive has become habitual.
      really paid much attention to your habits.               which are more responsible for thought                                                                                          The good news for everyone is that you
      Habits are actions performed without a                   and consciousness. It’s widely accepted                                Now, in the character of a man or woman,                 get to CHOOSE the habits you want to
      great deal of thought—once a habit has                   throughout the medical and psychological                               habits are formed in a manner similar                    have and those you wish to eliminate! This
      been formed, you tend to do it naturally,                fields of study that when habits are being                             to one’s drive to work, each small habit                 is such a simple and powerful principle of
      effortlessly. Habits become part of our                  formed there is increased activity in the                              becoming so perfected, so effortless,                    self-improvement, but one that is often
      character, we do them over, and over, and                basal ganglia, which manifests itself as a                             eventually blending together so efficiently              overlooked even by those that want to
      over– and hardly ever think about why we                 pronounced discomfort in the brain. After                              that they are seemingly difficult to tear                change the most.
      choose to do them or how they contribute                 all, habit formation is literally the process                          apart. Eventually, the character of the                  Dryden spoke poetically when he wrote
      to the quality of our life.                              of rewiring your neural pathways. As a task                            individual is defined largely by the                    “We first make our habits, then our habits
                                                               is repeated over and over again and the                                habits they have formed.
      For example good habits are like our                     habit is formed, activity in the basal ganglia                                                                                  make us.” But for the man or woman
      fingers: we use them all the time without                decreases and that discomfort becomes less                             In fact, this principle is so important, that one        committed to a life of improvement, it is far
      thought, and we almost never realize how                 pronounced and eventually non-existent.                                of America’s greatest founding fathers wrote             better to say: “We first re-make our habits,
      valuable they are until one of them is hurt.                                                                                    an entire book on the topic. In Benjamin                 then our habits re-make us!”
      Fingers like good habits benefit us in ways              A great example of this is when you drive
      we rarely consider.                                      somewhere for the first time. Let’s say                                                       "We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then,
                                                               your destination is about thirty minutes
      But, bad habits are not so easily identified!            away. About halfway into the trip you                                                                 is not an act, but a habit." — Aristotle
      A bad habit is like an infected finger that              begin looking at your GPS impatiently and
      we ignore. We just live with this bad habit              inevitably wondering “am I ever going to get                           Franklin’s book, “The Pursuit of Moral                   This is a statement of transformation! Like
      even though it’s causing us pain and                     there?” The unfamiliarity of the roads you’re                          Perfection,” he explains how he applied the              Ben Franklin, we need to choose our habits
      eventually harm.
                                                               traveling literally creates discomfort in your                         power of habits to his life that consequently            wisely. Your choice will make a tremendous
      A habit is defined as a behavior pattern                 brain. Once you arrive at your destination                             resulted in his success and fame.                        difference in the quality of your life! And,
      developed by frequent repetition that is                 that discomfort dissipates. Now think about                            At TOPUCU, our goal is to help people                    don’t be fooled, NOT choosing IS choosing;
      thereafter performed without conscious                   your return trip. Somehow, it’s always shorter,                        develop better habits, with a particular focus           it is CHOOSING to keep all the habits you’ve
      thought. The brain does it automatically,                right? We end up saying things like, “Wow,                             on finishing. What are the possibilities if we           already developed, to embrace the good
      like brushing your teeth, eating, or perhaps,            the drive home was so much quicker” and,                               develop a habit of transforming our minds                ones AND the bad ones.
      even driving to work. Clinical research has             “I made great time on the way back.” Well                               so that finishing what we start is as natural            If we are going to change our habits, what
      shown that about 40 percent of the things                unless you were speeding, the drive home                               as brushing our teeth or driving to a familiar           knowledge do we need to succeed? A key
      we do every day are done through habitual                was no different at all. What happened is                              place we visit all the time? What if finishing           to the formation of good habits and the
      behavior, the conscious process of which                 the route that you took is now stored in                               well became a habit in our lives?                        elimination of poor habits is to understand
      often goes unnoticed because we do                       your basal ganglia and therefore you didn’t                                                                                     the 3 components of habitual behavior.
                                                               experience the same discomfort.


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