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The Most Powerful WOMAN
           “There is always some-
        thing to work on in ballet –– I       in the Room is YOU
        think with everything in life,”
        she said. But in ballet, “there is           By Lydia Fenet
        always something to perfect.”
        Gyulai said this applies to both
        the technical and artistic com-  I host a quarterly network-  what started as a group of
        ponents of ballet. For her, she   ing breakfast with a woman   twelve women has turned into
        mostly is focused on improv-  who, at one time, was one of   a breakfast that has touched
        ing artistically, at the moment.   my biggest rivals in the auc-  over a hundred women. It has
           However, Ballet has       tion world. On the morning of   grown from twelve people
        taught her how to accept mis-  our first networking breakfast,   to as large as twenty-five
        takes and imperfections well.   Courtney and I arrived early   people. It is a place where we
           “Nothing is ever perfect.   and anxiously awaited the   invite anyone in need of life
        You can fall on your face, and   arrival of our first guests at a   guidance, career guidance, a
        that happens to everyone,” she   small restaurant in the West   fresh take on a new business,
        said. “You just need to learn   Village. Once everyone got   a place to talk about breakups,
        how to be okay with that. I am   comfortable and seated with   babies, divorce, motherhood,   guidance than someone who
        still practicing every day how   their tablemates, we posed a   the challenges of marriage,   has recently passed through
        to do that.”                 simple question to the group:   fertility issues, career changes,   that stage in their life. Same
           In order to dance well,   “Tell us what is going on in   career success—you name   with women who are looking
        Gyulai has learned how to live   your life.”            it, we have covered it. We   to transition jobs, having
        in the present moment.         “As often happens with   ask everyone at the table the   their first child, or going back
           “When you’re out there    groups of women, within    same question: “What are   to work after their first child.
        on stage, it is a moment that   minutes the conversation took   you working on?” Because, as   Talking to someone who has
                                                                                           already been in the trenches
        does not come back. We have   on a life of its own. We had   you know, a powerful woman   of a life experience and has
        many moments like that,” she   assumed that a networking   always has her sights set on   found their way to the other
                                                                something, whether it’s start-
                                     breakfast would largely focus
        said.                        on careers and questions   ing a business, raising a family,   side can be hugely helpful
           Gyulai said that a danc-                                                        when you are just going
        er’s daily regimen and also   about people’s jobs in general.   running the PTA, or creating a   through it.
                                     It became clear very quickly
                                                                new strategy for fundraising
        pre-performance routine is a   that no one was going to ad-  on behalf of a nonprofit.  The Most Powerful Wom-
        very personal thing for each   dress their career path without   Whatever stage you are at   an in the Room is an informa-
        dancer.                      talking about their personal   in your life, think about put-  tion seeker, a connector of
           "You will see me before   lives as well. In some cases,   ting together a moment for   people, and she is constantly
        every performance praying,"   there was no career at all—  this type of connection. Even   listening to the advice of oth-
        Gyulai said her faith helps   they were just there to meet   if you start it on your own   er women in her life. Some-
        her a lot in her career, to calm   new people and share.   and you are the only point   times all she needs is a forum
        down and to remember why       We quickly realized that we  of connection between the   to share her ideas and learn
        she does what she does. "It's   were onto something when   people at the table, you can   from others. So be the one
        out of love, and it's out of   a few weeks later we start-  create this for those around   who steps forward and invites
        grace, and it's very humbling."  ed getting emails from our   you. In many ways, it is about   everyone into a place where
           As a professional balle-  friends asking when we were   flipping your mindset; when   support and encouragement
        rina, Gyulai embodies both   planning to hold the next   you start seeing other women   is the name of the game.
        the love and discipline that it   breakfast. The next question   as an additive piece of your   My question to you, the
        takes for any art form to be at   was “Is it okay if I invite my   networking puzzle, you will be   Most Powerful Woman in
        its best. She said that some-  friend/my colleague/some-  amazed at how helpful your   the Room, is: When is your
        times her joints don't like   one I met who is in a rut?” The   advice can quickly become   breakfast?”
        the pain they experience, but   breakfast quickly became like   to those around you. When   The Most Powerful Wom-
        "everything else I love. I love   a drug—a group of women,   speaking to college seniors   an in the Room is You is her
        every bit of it," she said.   many of whom had never met,  requesting advice on how to   first book and will be pub-
           Cinderella is from April   supporting issues in one an-  move into the working world,   lished by Gallery Books, an
        12-14, 2019 at the San Diego   other’s personal life and pro-  I always recommend that they   imprint of Simon & Schuster,
        Civic Theatre                fessional life, and opening up   reach out to women two or   in Spring 2019. You can follow
           Get your tickets today at   their networks to lift everyone   three years out of college. I   her auctions, antics, and
        http://www.californiaballet.  up. Over the four years that   can remember that transitory   anecdotes on Instagram: @
        org/cinderella               we have held the breakfast,   time, but who better to give   LydiaFenet.

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