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people in your life need to give you a window of time to ask for “grace” and allow you to skip things or cancel things (even at the last minute). Sometimes, that window feels like it doesn’t exist. Sometimes, it is a short window, but seldom is it a lengthy period of time. If you are caring for a loved one for a longer period, remember that you may need to change how you respond to your new life
Balance is important. Be present at the moment, whether you are with your loved one or trying to meet the needs of your family, friends, or work colleagues.
can give to each other without losing yourself or becoming so tired that you also fall ill.
Lesson 5: Be an Advocate
You can see, experience, and know what your loved ones cannot see or understand when they are ill or medically disabled. During those times, you have to become their advocate and their spokesperson. Don’t be afraid to ask questions. Ask for an explanation. Take notes about the treatment they are
PATIENCE, PLANNING AND SUPPORT: REFLECTIONS ON DEALING WITH AGING FAMILY MEMBERS
 (it will never go back to the old
normal). It’s up to you to balance all your needs with your family/work. Define for yourself what is essential and what is not necessary. You need to ask yourself how much you
receiving and their prescribed medications. Take photos and videos. Make a chart to track the medications. This was especially helpful to my Dad in the hospital. In addition
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