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Love is Wanting Another to Feel Good.
We want the best for those we love, for them to be happy, safe, healthy, and fulfilled. We want them to feel good in all ways, physically, mentally and
emotionally.

Love Pays Attention
We want to demonstrate to those we love that we are “there in the moment”, consciously aware of his or her existence.

Love Shows Affection
Regardless of how the other person may compare in some areas with others, we want to make it clear by our showing sincere affection that those we love are
important to us.

Love Demonstrates Understanding
Understanding is demonstrating that we are sincere in wanting to identify how the other person feels and perceives the world, events and others around them.

Friendship
Before we can enter into a romantic relationship, and indeed after we have entered one, friendship must be the core element. True friendship means meeting a
person’s true emotional needs, by means of the other elements shown here. Pure friendship is said to be the engine of romantic love.

Respect
If friendship is the engine of romantic love, that engine will not turn without the fuel of respect. As a race, we are motivated and stimulated to be in the company
of people we truly respect. Respect is usually based on our perception of a persons self-reliance. The more capable a person seems to be of standing on their
own two feet, the more we are likely to respect them. Conversely, the more dependent a person becomes upon us, the clingier they become, the more our
respect for them evaporates. It is impossible to respect someone you can control like a puppet. Even when we are projecting an image of respecting them, to
protect their image and reputation, subconsciously our respect for them diminishes and love deteriorates into pity.

Passion
We are not talking exclusively about sexual passion here. We are referring to the level of romantic desire that exists within us for that person, the fire that
burns within us for that person. It is quite normal for levels of passion to go up and down dependent upon our feelings when we are with the person in different
circumstances.

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