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EARTH ANGELS & MAGIC MOMENTS
This may seem like splitting hairs but a caring,
creative, organized person is not the same person as a
vigilant, inventive, methodical person. This becomes
more obvious when you look at the negative words
people use to describe themselves. Words like “I am
‘shy’,” “I’m ‘negative’,” “I am ‘antisocial’.” You weren’t
born that way. If someone believes these descriptions
of themselves just imagine the catastrophic
consequences of decisions made based on these beliefs.
How can anyone make a fresh start if they don’t know
who they are to begin with?
The truth is there’s no such thing as a negative
attribute: only positive ones turned upside down by
time and circumstance. Jackson told me he was shy.
His mother called him shy when he was growing up.
“Oh yes Jackson’s such a shy boy.” “Oh Jackson. Stop
being so shy!” Well jeepers. Hearing this over and over,
the seeds are sown. When Jackson discovers there’s no
such thing as shy—that it’s not a natural-born attribute
—and that he’s actually “cautious and reserved,”
which are good things, his negative self-esteem stops
holding him back and he’s able to move along a
different, stronger path.
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