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DAMIAN: I have a computer right in front of me. I can get tickets now.

ERICA: Oh my gosh, could you? That would be amazing.

DAMIAN: Yeah, don't worry about it. It's really no problem.

Initially, this doesn't seem bad at all. There's a concrete problem that she mentions. He solves
it. She shows appreciation.

But she didn't use the full potential of this opportunity to trigger his hero instinct. Because she
never asked for his help.

That matters. Asking is part of what tells him that she values him. Moreover, that she believes
he can solve the problem.

He basically has to wave his arms and say, "Hey, I'm right here! Pick me!"

Here's what she could have done to trigger his hero instinct more powerfully:

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ERICA: I meant to get tickets before leaving work, but I forgot. And by the time I get home,
they're bound to be sold out. I was feeling down about it, but then I realized you might be able
to rescue me. I really need your help. Could you get them?

DAMIAN: Opening the website right now.

ERICA: I knew I picked you for a reason.

DAMIAN: And... purchased.

ERICA: You are amazing. Thank you!

In short, the right way to help your guy "win" at the relationship is to:

Present a problem with a concrete solution.
Ask him to help with that problem.
Show appreciation for his help.

Then repeat, repeat, repeat. That's the formula.

Of course, that's just one real-world example of the kind of problem you want to ask your guy
to solve. There are countless variations.

In His Secret Obsession, I cover more of these ideas and examples. And I take you on a
journey into the male, so you can see how he experiences relationships.

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