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Communication
Week 4
Introducing the 3 C’s
Caring Behaviour
Continue with the Top 2 every day and add a third to your card Ask your spouse to choose a third mistake from your Letter of
Responsibility and write it on your card with corrective actions
The corrective actions must be achievable and small enough to be attained daily
Compliments
Positive compliments, given twice a day, help us to focus more on the positives of a person than the negatives
Create your ‘Fabulous Fourteen’ list and keep it hidden from your spouse
These compliments must be verbal and delivered face-to-face
Use your spouse’s name to make the compliment more personable
Add ‘Carry Over Topics’ to the ‘What’s on your mind?’ segment of the ‘Couples Talk Time’ process. Discuss topics over a series of sessions to delve deeper into conversation and take time, in between scheduled sessions, to reflect on your reactions and thoughts
Spend 5-10 minutes discussing your carry over topic. Each time you talk about a topic, you get a little deeper and strengthen your connection with each other.
Your reflections might be reminders of past events, feelings that stirred in you, relate to something you experienced recently...
The important thing is to both recognise and agree the topic is a carry over into the next scheduled session and commit to giving is some consideration between meeting again.
Adding Prayer and Conversation to the Process
Add your prayer requests/concerns to a list, throughout the week, and select some of these requests/concerns to pray about together.
Immediately following the ‘What’s on your mind?’ segment, join hands and pray out loud together, with the husband leading.
Spend no more than five minutes in prayer and then have a brief discussion about some of the things you both prayed for.