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A Power that Can Move Mountains

All this is not because it is impossible for the person
in question to do these things. The real reason is that
he is not serious about developing strong will power.
If he developed strong will power, he would be able to
give up any habit in the same way in which Mr. Kapoor
overcame his desire to smoke.
There are two kinds of strong will power—emotion-
based and reason-based. There are many people who are
motivated by an emotional moment and so abandon
their habit. But it is better to abandon something on
the basis of reason: a person should think and apply
reason to his behaviour, then give up his habit as the
result of a well-considered decision.

For example, people often develop complaints about
others and go on living in the complaint culture. The
habit of complaining is an issue of reason and not of
emotion. That is, if a person just thinks about it, he will
realize that to go on complaining means being a bad
member of society. A good member is one who wishes
others well. This kind of thinking is possible through
rational analysis. If a person thinks in this manner,
he will surely develop strong will power and instantly
abandon the complaint culture.
I once met a person who told me that he used to
constantly feel angry with others. One day he thought
that although he was the one who was angry with
others, but it was actually he alone who paid the price
for this because he constantly lived in a state of tension
and stress. When he realized this, he instantly took the
decision to change his attitude and stop being angry.

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