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Leading A Spiritual Life

are bound to come across, whether at home with your
family, out in society or on your travels. If you follow
this formula, you will never have a bitter experience.
You can have a balanced life in every situation, both at
home and outside.
All too frequently, people live in a state of tension. In
the majority of the cases, the reason is the bad handling
of others, whether men or women. Intentionally or
unintentionally, people touch a woman’s emotions of
or hurt a man’s ego, and it is this wrong approach which
leads to breakdown. The result is that both the parties
unnecessarily start suffering from tension.

But there are simple remedies for this. For example,
if a man comes home late from his office, and his
wife becomes angry, he should not become provoked,
but should rather reply with a smile: “Right now I’m
hungry, so let’s eat something and we’ll talk about this
later.” On the other hand, if a woman insists on going
shopping, but her husband doesn’t feel like going out,
the husband should not refuse downright. He should
say: “Good idea! But please not today. I’ll go along
with you tomorrow.” This is the easiest way to settle the
matter between a husband and wife.
Having a tension-free mind is the greatest need for
us all. The only way to achieve this is to learn the art
of management of human situations. This art often
requires only a few well chosen words to be uttered
to smooth the ruffled feathers of others and to stop
tension destroying your own peace of mind, as well as
adversely affecting your physical health.

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