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Adjustment—The Golden Rule

negative, and not imagining issues to be insurmountable,
but rather managing the situation with aplomb.
In every situation you have two options: either to
adjust with others or remain at loggerheads with them.
If you decide not to make any adjustments, that will
only aggravate your problems. You will go on living in a
state of tension, feel mentally disturbed and will waste
your time and energy. But, if you opt for adjustment,
you will be able instantly to relax mentally and will be
able to save yourself from all kinds of negativity.

Adjustment gives you a chance to proceed with your
own affairs. While the policy of being unaccommodating
is bound to interfere with the smooth running of your
life, either temporarily or permanently.
Adjustment does not mean adopting a submissive
attitude. It rather shows wisdom. It is the same principle
which everyone follows when they are on the street. On
the street, there is traffic moving in opposite directions.
So, everyone opts for the keep-right or keep-left policy,
in accordance with the traffic rules of their country.
This is a way of adjustment on the roads. If you refuse
to follow these traffic rules, you are certain to face a
disastrous situation, perhaps even death. Adjustment
is based on a natural formula: ‘Save yourself’. When
you are not in the position to change others, change
yourself. It is this behaviour that is called adjustment.

According to the law of nature, settlement is the best
way of life. When you face any kind of difference with
another, rather than get into a confrontational situation,
go for adjustment. This is best for you in terms of the

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