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is able to gauge the slightest of deviation from the path
of realism. He accepts feedback as it is and introspects to
realize and overcome his shortcomings.

10 How do I control my anger?

have spent significant time on this topic and my
I conclusion is that nature has instilled a special
mechanism in a person by which he can control his
anger. When angry, all one has to do is observe silence.
Anger incites a psychological fire within a person and
in the resulting rage, he is not able to control himself.
But when one becomes silent in moments of anger, the
rage instantly begins to take a downward trend. So, when
someone provokes us, we must simply become quiet.

At all such times, I myself do not react and I have
experienced that anger takes no time in subsiding.
Reaction leads to chain reaction and not reacting stops
the chain reaction, but in order to stop the chain reaction,
one needs the power of self-control. Only the spiritually
strong can break the chain reaction in a situation involving
provocation and rage. It is a sign of great strength. As per
a tradition of tge Prophet Muhammad:

The strong man is not one who is good at
wrestling, but the strong man is one who
controls himself in a fit of rage. (Sahih al-
Bukhari, hadith no. 5763)

It has also been alluded to in the Quran that one may

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