Page 18 - SoulWinning Crash Course

Notice it doesn't say "salt, seasoned with grace." It's GRACE, seasoned with
salt. "Salty" speech is the exception, not the rule. Most of the time, in one-
on-one soulwinning, meekness is more effective. Remember, you're on
THEIR PORCH. They don't have to let you talk to them. If you are nothing

but kind and gentle to them, hating you will be harder for them, and
slamming the door in your face will only bring shame on them and possibly
convict their conscience later. Remember, you are there to HELP them,
NOT "win" an argument.

2 Timothy 2:24-25 "And the servant of the Lord must not strive; but be
gentle unto all men, apt to teach, patient, In meekness instructing those
that oppose themselves; if God peradventure will give them repentance

to the acknowledging of the truth;"

Don't let your pride make you sound "Holier than thou." The lost person
may be really wicked, but don't talk down to him. He may be really wrong,
but don't try to make him feel stupid. And don't directly criticize his
"church" or "denomination" if you can help it. The moment he feels you're
"insulting" him or his beloved clergy, he will switch to "DEFENSE MODE,"

after which he will be preoccupied with "saving face" and thinking of smart
comebacks, rather than trying to understand your point-of-view. You must
keep them curious, not make them defensive. Choose your words
cautiously. Being right is not enough; you must consider the mental state of
the person you're talking to.

Matthew 10:16 "Behold, I send you forth as sheep in the midst of wolves:
be ye therefore wise as serpents, and harmless as doves."

Proverbs 15:1 "A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words
stir up anger."

Assume they have simply not heard the facts they need through no fault of
their own, and speak accordingly. For example, if they say they believe
something wrong (that will prevent them from getting saved), you, being

offended by false doctrine, may be inclined to blurt out "But THAT's not
what the BIBLE says!!!" That implies they're stupid or ignorant or can't
read, and YOU JUST LOST THEM TO "DEFENSE MODE." Instead, try