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They really bring everybody together and are very protective of people they care about.
In Shadow, when they must be safe and secure, they become over- controlling, structured and rigid in their relationships. They can withdraw and become sarcastic and opinionated. They need to protect themselves, may go into “tough guy” mode. The tougher they are, the more people they alienate. As a result, they can undermine important relationships when they are in Shadow.
In Best Self, Sixes are extraordinarily loyal, follow up on procedures, and carry out responsibilities. If you go into battle, surround yourself with Sixes. They follow through on promises. It’s just too much anxiety for them if they cannot produce what they say. They are faithful to their causes and really terrific team players.
In Shadow, when they must be safe and secure, Sixes can become really resistant to change and so committed to the ‘tried and true” they cannot take on new things. They are really unwilling to test the limit or
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look out of the box. In Shadow, they will not completely resist change but need some significant “settling in” time to move past their resistance.
In extreme Shadow, they may just shut down completely. They have a strong fear of the unknown and don’t realize how much in life they miss out on—new experiences, new friends, great food, work opportunities, and as a result, they miss out on good opportunities. Sixes in Shadow will go to the same restaurant and eat the same food—they love the familiar and predictable.
In Shadow, Sixes categorize people, you’re in or out, you’re on the team or not on the team. Sixes in shadow can be exclusive and cliquish. They respect authority and work within the structure of hierarchy. They respect pecking order, whether family or work, as long as you explain where they fit in. Even in best self, they need structure and to understand the structure—who fits where—in order to feel safe and secure.
In Best Self, authority figures are generally important people they respect because of knowledge, greater experience that they go to for guidance and support—parents, cousins, business associates. At times, they may lack confidence about their abilities, and they can rely on authority figures to give them information or to bolster them.
In Shadow, they can have real ambivalence about authority figures, and engage in a love-hate relationship with them. If you are the authority figure, you must be very careful when you assert yourself. If you make them uncomfortable, Sixes in Shadow can fight very strongly. They become noisy and belligerent if being misunderstood or overlooked. They want you to see their point of view and agree with it.