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provide a signed card so the family Realize you are grieving.
knows who gave the gift.
The first step towards regaining a
Keep in touch - you may feel that the sense of control is to understand grief.
family needs their space and time to Grief is a physical, social, emotional,
grieve, but a simple phone call or note psychological and spiritual reaction to
after the funeral lets the family know loss. It is natural, normal and necessary.
you care. With social networking leaving It may cause a variety of reactions,
a quick note is as simple as a click of a including:
mouse. The months following a death is
when grieving friends and family need • Feeling tired and irritable. You
the most support. may experience insomnia or feel
tired all the time.
Dont: • Appetite changes. You may or may
Bring your cell phone - your phone not feel hungry.
ringing will be highly inappropriate • Feelings of anxiousness. You
and will cause a disturbance, so turn may feel worried and excited at
any ringers or notifications off. Even the same time; like your heart is
better, leave your phone at home or racing and you cannot “catch your
in your car, a funeral is not the time to breath”.
be texting or checking your messages. • Feelings of emptiness. You may
feel hollow inside. It may be
Allow your children to be a distraction hard to concentrate or remember
- from a very young age children are things.
aware of death and if the funeral is • Feeling out-of-control. You may
for someone that was close them feel helpless, angry or frightened.
(grandparent, aunt, uncle) they
should be given the option to attend. All of these feelings are normal.
However, if it is not appropriate for Your whole world has changed. You
your child to be there and if you feel cannot bring the person back or
they will cause a commotion, leave change the situation. It is natural to
them with a babysitter. feel vulnerable. Through information,
we gain a sense of understanding.
Be afraid to remember the good Through understanding, we gain a
times - funerals are obviously a sense of control.
time of grieving and mourning, but
remembering the good times helps Seek out information about grief,
with the healing process. Sharing everyone grieves differently. Our
a funny and appropriate story is cultural and religious experiences,
acceptable, and, in some cases exactly the circumstances of the death and
what the deceased would our relationship with the person who
have wanted. died influence our reactions to grief. If
someone dies after a long illness, there
may be a momentary sense of relief that
Understanding Grief the pain is over. If a death is sudden
The death of a loved one, friend or family and unexpected, shock and a feeling of
member often puts us in touch with numbness may occur. If a young person
our own thoughts and feelings about dies there is a sense that things are out
mortality. All of a sudden we realize of order and that life is not the way it is
how quickly life can end. It is normal to supposed to be.
feel out-of-control and overwhelmed.
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