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Self-Care for the Caregiver
of Aging Parents
It’s difficult watching a parent age. Not too long ago, it seems, you depend on them for everything. Now they may struggle with getting dressed, preparing meals, and managing their medications. You’re committed to helping them navigate these challenges, but with your own responsibilities at work and home, you find yourself feeling overwhelmed. You have probably heard that the best way to take care of others is to make sure you’re also taking care of yourself. But how?
Prioritize
A perfectly party for your daughter’s high school graduation. But the truth of the matter is that when it comes to staying sane, something has to give. Maybe you need to let the dishes pile up for a night while you veg in front of your favorite show (better yet, use paper plates a couple nights a week). Maybe Dad will get one less bath this weed so you can attend your son’s choir concert and get the sleep you need. By making a list every dad of things that absolutely need to get done, the things that would be nice to get done, and things to address later, you can give yourself permission to make space for what matters most and let other things be for a while.
Build in time for you
One of the things that absolutely needs to get done is making time for yourself. It’s not selfish to build in this time; in fact, it is very much the opposite. By preventing burnout, you will be able to continue to care for your aging parent with patience, compassion, and a clear head. Consider how you can make time for the following types of care. Even 15 minutes of “you time” a few times a week can make a difference with your physical and mental health.
Your respite time can include:
• Exercise
• Prayer/meditation
• Time outside
• Hobbies: gardening, reading, music, crafts, games
• Naps
• Church activities
• Artistic activities, such as concerts, plays, and trips to the art museum
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